Thursday, 30 July 2009

A friend of mine well educated, from a respectable family, working, fell in love with a guy and married him. It so happened that he lost his job after marriage. He initially looked for another job but slowly gave up. My friend would apply for his jobs, send his resumes but he was just not interested anymore. He started blaming her for his misery. Soon we knew that he had turned to alcohol. He would drink full day and when my friend came back from the office...argue on some petty things with her. This became a regular scene. As she was the only bread earner in the family, she looked into the situation and started putting in extra hours at work as she wanted to do better and moreover distract herself from the daily drama that she had to face after going back home. As she started concentrating more on work front, her superiors started recognising her abilities and very soon she was promoted. She was very happy and thought if she shares this good news with her husband, he will be at least proud of her and would appreciate her for working so hard. But to her surprise he started blaming her for loosing his job, for showing off that she is better than her, he even started abusing her and telling her things that nobody could imagine. He even questioned her character for getting promoted in the office.

Schopenhauer has said it years ago:

' Vulgar people take huge delight in the faults and follies of great men.'

When you are kicked and criticized, remember that it is often done because it gives the kicker a feeling of importance. It often means that you are accomplishing something and are worthy of attention. Many people get a sense of salvage satisfaction out of denouncing those who are better educated than they are or more successful.

There is another person I know who just cannot give compliments to anyone. She tries to put other person down by either critising them or by talking good about herself. These kind of people are so negative in their thoughts. Earlier I use to get worried about this and talk to my sister about it. But as usual my psychologist sister said:

If you are tempted to be worried about unjust criticism.....

Remember that unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment.

Remeber that no one ever kicks a dead dog.

She even made me realise that people are not thinking about you and me or caring what is said about us. They are thinking about themselves - before breakfast, after breakfast, and right on until ten minutes past midnight. They would be a thousand times more concerned about a slight headache of their own than they would about the news of your death or mine.

Even if you and I are lied about, ridiculed, double-crossed, knifed in the back, and sold down the river by one out of every six of our most intimate friends - let's not indulge in an orgy of self-pity.

' Never be bothered by what people say, as long as you know in your heart you are right.'

'If you get your head above the crowd, you're going to be criticised. So get use to the idea.' That helped me tremendously. From that time on I made it a rule to do the very best I could and then put up my umbrella and let the rain of criticism drain off me instead of run down my neck.

Wednesday, 29 July 2009

A Chance remark, transformed my whole life!

My sister is my biggest critic but also at the same time showers her love on me by advising me on a daily basis about everything....actually she can be a psychologist....

One day we were talking about how mom n dad brought us up, and she said, 'No matter what happened, they always insisted on us being ourselves.' .....

'On being ourselves.'......that remark is what did it!
In a flash, I realised I had brought all the misery on myself by trying to fit myself in a pattern to which I did not conform.

I can say she has always told me right things at the right time!

I changed overnight!

I started being myself. I tried to make a study of my own personality. Tried to find out what I was. Studied my strong points. I learned all I could about blogging. I can give this credit to my neighbour who introduced me the idea. But I had forgotten that untill I received a mail from a friend to follow some creative n excellent blogs. And so.... I started one myself.

I humbly thank everyone for inspiring me in their own way!!

I reached out to make friends. Each time I write my posts, I gain little courage. It will take a while - but today I have more happiness than I ever dreamed possible. I soon will graduate in making my own designs, sketches, organisers (actually it is called Dreamz factory - where I dare to dream and make it happen, anything n eveything I can). In rearing my children, I am also teaching them the lesson I had to learn from some bitter experiences.

So Instead of focussing on all the things I couldn't do, I began to rejoice in everything I could.
Here is the way a poet - the late Douglas Malloch - said it:

If you can't be a pine on the top of the hill, Be a scrub in the valley - but be

The best little scrub by the side of the rill;

Be a bush, if you can't be a tree.

If you can't be a bush, be a bit of the grass,

And some highway happier make;

If you can't be a muskie, then just be a bass-

But the liveliest bass in the lake!

We can't be all captains, we've got to be crew,

There's something for all of us here.

There's big work to do and there's lesser to do

And the task we must do is the near.

If you can't be a highway, then just be a trail,

If you can't be the sun, be a star;

It isn't the size that you win or you fail -

Be the best of whatever you are!

To cultivate a mental attitude that will bring us peace and freedom from worry, remember....

Let's not imitate others.
Let's find ourselves and be ourselves.
BE HAPPY............BE FREE!!
Just received an email with this quote, thought of sharing with all u guys:
What u r is God's gift 2 u........ What u make of urself is ur gift 2 God.......So Keep Smiling!!!

Monday, 27 July 2009

Five most wanted men in my life!

My Nephew - more like my own son
Why even think when I have him!

Watch out models - I can give you a run for your money!

Love u and thank you for making me feel so special!

The best father in the world!

A picture perfect smile!

Thank you Papa for everything you have taught me and tried making me a better person! I know as a child I was very difficult. Sorry for all those mistakes that I made. I hope I can make you proud again and this blog is the 1st step taken in that direction.

My husband - a dependable friend in need is a friend indeed!

Complete Confessor!

Thank you for being there always!

The perfect example -

C'mon buddy, lets show them!

C'mon Papa, prove it - age is not a constraint

Okay! Guys thats enough! Playing without me. Let me also prove my point.

My brother in law - more like a brother - very understanding and supportive.

And his lovely Wife! They complement each other and our family.

Allright so we can ad for the perfect smile with Colgate!

Last but not the least! My father-in-law

Finally I feel at home with my kids!

Thank you Pa for teaching me your culinary skills, for those lovely talks over a cup of tea and thank you for letting me be a part of your family - which is mine now.

All these men have taught me to be a child again, a mother, friend, daughter and above all a good human being with lots of patience. They have taught me how beautiful the world can be when you want it to be. Thank you all for your unconditional love that u continue to shower on me!

I love u all

Thank you all for your love n support......

I shall continue to share my most precious things with you...............


Take care n stay fit!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sunday, 26 July 2009

Scintillating Photos

My picture perfects................
I hope u like them too!
I m sharing my family photos........................enjoy this light moment on a lazy afternoon!

Hello! How may I help you????????????

I am the Fusion Generation!!!!!!

Okay! your secret is safe with me!!!!

Hey! have u seen such cool glasses!

Okay! So what r u elders up to????????????

Bald n Beautiful!!!!!!

View from my balcony.......Skyscrapers!!!!

Oh Boy! These shopping bags were too many so I thought instead of carrying them let me wear them.....What say!

What a runaway place in this hot summer - Ski Dubai!
Excellent work guys....

Wow an Icy counter!

Oh Dragon lite up my life!

Okay! If I cannot lite up your life then let me lite up myself!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Welcome! to the Ice age - I mean Ski Dubai!
On a lazy afternoon in Dubai.......a trip to ski Dubai
Tooooooooooooooo Hot n steamy outside....
Toooooooooooooooooooooooo cool inside.....
Some of the pix very close to my heart
These r 2 piglets in my life - my sister Kusum n my little one Ishita. As per chinese calendar they r pigs. they r so much alike.

This picture says - I,Me, Myself - I, me are my 2 daughters and myself is my sister. So they all are part of me.

This is man on the go........MANGO

Friday, 24 July 2009

I have grown up watching Ma and my Sister caring, loving, understanding, supporting and comforting everyone of us in the family. All the things they give daily, continually, without asking for anything in return. They have made me believe that if a woman is sufficiently ambitious, determined and gifted - there is practically nothing you can't do.
Everyday we are breaking more role barriers , allowing ourselves to think independently about who we are and what success means to us..... prosperity means experiencing balance in life, attaining what we want on mental, physical, emotional, spiritual, and financial levels. Prosperity is the natural result of opening our minds to our creative imaginations and being willing to act on our ideas.
Whether eighteen or eighty - whether single, mother or gran - no matter race or creed - a common bond unites all women. They share the same hopes, fears, joys and sorrows. They understand each other's love, peace and pain. their bond stretches around the globe nurturing it by power of their love....
I believe that one woman's success can only help another woman's success......
Hence this blog is dedicated to all us women who are in their own eyes Domestic Goddess or super moms or just a woman! What more can you ask to be?
I must say these thoughts were really inspiring for me and all these are from some great people and I just wanted to share with you all.

Look for my next posts on Dimaag ki batti jalao (Brewing of thoughts), Call'em Ideas, excellence to perfection, so on and so forth......


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